No chubbs, no fatties, it’s not discrimination it’s just my preference. This is something I would read often scrolling through Grindr, a gay dating app. Every time I read that I knew that they were addressing me. I would try to hide my body by only posting pictures with clothes on or I wouldn’t show body pics. But then there’d be the times where someone would send me a message asking for nudes. For a while, I wouldn’t even send them. But then I would, praying the person wouldn’t block me upon seeing them. Each block I would receive was…
Last month I wrote about ableism and how a woman decided to question a man’s disability and right to use a disability card. Today I want to focus even more on ableism and especially systemic ableism.
Systemic ableism is a system of institutions, policies, and societal values that disadvantage people based on societal values of intelligence, physical ability, and mental abilities.
Systemic ableism consists of numerous barriers such as attitudinal, communication, physical, policy, programmatic, criminal justice, social/environmental, and transportation.
Attitudinal barriers are one of the most basic barriers and leading problems to other barriers. …
I am a man who has had many insecurities. I struggled with my body, with my internalized anti-blackness, and now I am going to share my journey and struggle of loving my femininity.
I imagine I have always had feminine energy within me. I remember reading something to the effect of you don’t know your black until you experience racism. Well, I imagine a little kid doesn’t know they are feminine until they are discriminated against for it. And I remember one of my very first memories of being discriminated against because of my femininity; it was when I went…
I was a biracially black and white child predominantly raised in an all-white community with a few exceptions of people of color. I was raised on the south side of Milwaukee. If anyone knows Milwaukee, they know that Milwaukee is one of the most racially segregated cities in the US; there’s the south side that is mostly Latino, and there’s the north side that is mostly black, and then there’s the other sides and the suburbs where most of the white people reside. I was raised primarily by my white mother, and my closest family was that from her side…
About a month ago I wrote an article about my journey with my body positivity. I wrote about how I learned to love myself and my body. But I never wrote about how my own insecurities with my body were the catalyst for the bullying that I wreaked upon my younger brother.
My own insecurities with my body and my internalized fatphobia not only affected me, but it affected others around me and including my brother. I would call my brother every fat name in the book from the time he was 6ish until he was a full-grown young adult…
So I was scrolling my Facebook and came across a story about a woman in Australia who decided to confront a man about his ability. According to the man, she came up to him before he exited his car and asked if his disability card belonged to him. He later confronted her and told her he has one leg, and a prosthetic leg, something that clearly would not have been noticed because he was in his car when she decided to question him.
When he decides to confront her and tell her he has one leg, she explains that she…
What is an antiracist?
An antiracist idea is any idea that suggests the racial groups are equals in all their apparent differences — that there is nothing right or wrong with any racial group. Antiracist ideas argue that racist policies are the cause of racial inequities. ~Kendi, Ibram X.. How to Be an Antiracist (p. 20, ch 1).
What is a nonracist?
It is a claim that signifies neutrality: “I am not a racist, but neither am I aggressively against racism.” ~Kendi, Ibram X.. How to Be an Antiracist (p. 9, introduction).
What is veganism?
Maybe I did not focus on any of these specific things because I'm not very self-aware of my physical health besides feeling fine. Although I did lose about 30 pounds within a few months. And I have been able to maintain that without effort for an entire year now. My weight and binge eating was quite difficult for me before my vegan life. But since the diet aspect excludes dairy, I have been able to not eat sweets like I used to. Maybe I poop more as well haha. But I personally don't really focus on the health side effects, because I'm vegan exclusively for the welfare of animals.
Grindr is a breeding ground for discrimination. No blacks, no Latinos, no Asians, no Whites, no fems, no fatties or chubbies, no small cocks, etc.
People hide behind their discrimination, racism, bias, and fatphobia under a veil of “preference”. I think we have blurred the lines greatly between what is a preference and what is straight-up discrimination.
I’m going to speak about racial discrimination in this post, but I will be discussing the anti-femininity and fatphobia within Grindr in the future.
Let me start out by saying I am an equal opportunist when it comes to dating. The color of…
World traveler and a freelance writer. Educated in social work, with a passion for the rights and dignity of humans and animals.